Confused about parents divorce.?

In fifth grade, my parents had divorced. I moved from Florida to Nevada with my mom, brother, and sister. About nine months later, I, alone, moved back to my father. I spent the rest of fifth grade their. In sixth grade, I went to a school that would help me with the divorce, my ADHD, and to help me socially, because I was picked on often. Immediately after sixth grade, I moved to New York, where a lot of my dad's family was and where I was born. I made friends right away, and the divorce didn't bother me much. Overtime, I felt my the relationship between my father and I was degrading, and I felt really bad. Now I'm turning fourteen in two weeks, and about four months ago my dad got remarried, and the relationship between my father and I is getting better. My mom had got remarried much before that, though. I initially liked my dad's new wife. I'm Jewish, and reasonably religious. My new stepmom, however, is strangely super-orthodox. I hate it. I hate her kids, I hate how she thinks, how she talks, and her in general now. My mom's new husband is awesome. I really like him, and miss my bother and sister, too. My mother, brother, sister, and stepdad, whom I really like a lot, don't consider themselves Jewish at all, though, and I like being Jewish, but not as religious as my stepmom, but my mom is convincing me it's all in my head. I'm going to high school next year, my mom had moved to Washington with my stepdad and my siblings. I feel I should make a decsision. Should I stay here, miserable, move with them and be happier but change everything about myself, or spend half a year in each place? Thanks.